Man, leaving new friends is a bitch.
The second time I had bid farewell (“see you soon”) in three weeks to a group of amazing and beautiful people who became my family in the blink of an eye was no easier than the departure two weeks earlier.
First, it was Valdelavilla. And now, Monfrague. Two completely different programs, two completely different locations. Two completely and breathtakingly different groups of people.
And both forever have special places in my heart.
Leaving the Spaniards is never easy. This time was especially hard because there were a few people on the both the Spanish and English sides (and they know exactly who they are) who immediately captured my love.
I was so reluctant at first to accept this new group of people. It felt a bit like cheating on the original Valdelavilla family. Anthony and I stood in the meeting room of Hospedería Parque de Monfrague, me leaning my head against his shoulder, exhausted from the night we had previously with some of the participants of this program.
I whispered in his ear, “I want to be in Valdelavilla again.”
The group we were surrounded by was new. Different. Overwhelming.
It was about 20 Spaniards compared to about 12 from the last program, as well as about 20 Anglos. We had the bus ride with just the Anglos, and there were a few we spoke with. But all these people? Really? It just tired me to look at their faces.
We did the introductions … “I’m D,” kiss on the cheek, kiss on the other cheek, “nice to meet you.”
And again, I wondered what the hell I had gotten myself in to.
But, intense experiences like this bring people together, and this was no exception.
Within three meals I felt something towards every person in our group.
Within three days, I couldn’t imagine my life without having met them.
By the end of the week, I was making plans to see nearly all of them again.
Every meal, every one-on-one, even the cigarette breaks (no, Mom, I did not smoke), were filled with laughter and conversation — most of the time in English.
There were so many moments during Monfrague when I just wanted to press “pause” and make it last longer.
One moment was during our siesta — about half of us decided to go and explore Monfrague, a stunning national park with a castle perched atop a mountain. I stayed about mid-hike while the others climbed up to the castle with Tina, an Anglo from the UK.
Tina and I bonded instantly. We sat together, watching the vultures soar above our heads, sun shining on our faces, and had us some proper girl talk. By that night, she, Anthony and I were our own little club.
Another was when Jose, whose dimples, English phrases (“I can’t beeleeve it!”) and general oozing of happy quickly won me over, and I decided to head into the little town by our hotel for our one-on-one.
Only, we picked up some additional people.
He and I were driving down the road and saw Alfonso, another Spaniard who, along with his sister, Laly, ended up being like siblings to me during the trip, and Kate, an Anglo. So, we kidnapped them and they joined us as we sat outside at a little bar, sipping wine and beer and eating vultures feet (at least that’s what Alfonso wanted me to believe I was eating).
Another late afternoon, Jesus and I had our one-to-one and we took his little “puppito,” Lucky, for a walk around Monfrague. It was fun to watch the pup frolic in the yellow flowers, hopping through the neon green grass. And it was even more fun to talk to Jesus about life in Spain, my plans to live there (and how we are going to work on getting me a job there).
Then, there was the party. And, it was a party. A table covered with drinks and snacks mixed perfectly with the 40 or so of us until the wee hours of the morning.
And, of course, the next morning, Graeme (Anglo), Jose, Hector (Spaniard) and I continued the party at the little bar in town with coffee and brandy. Not my idea, but it worked.
Friday afternoon came and I was dreading it. Absolutely not looking forward to lunch or to leaving.
After lunch, we all congregated outside in the hotel’s driveway, hugging, kissing, promising to “see you soon,” and really meaning it (update: a group of us are having a reunion camping trip in May … looks like I’m headed back to Madrid!!).
As we pulled out of the hotel’s driveway, the Spaniards waved goodbye one last time.
There were a few tears. But, those tears were accompanied by the fact I KNEW the friends I had made would not disappear.
Friday night when we arrived back to Madrid, I was mentally exhausted. The “see you soon’s” of the day had ripped at me. But, I can’t wait to do another one …
2 thoughts on “Decompression numero dos”
Saying goodbye to friends is NEVER easy, however if you hadn’t had said goodbye to your last friends you wouldn’t have met your new friends. Always remind yourself of that! 🙂
So, so true!! I have definitely made new friends who have been hard to say “see you soon” to. Par for the course and I wouldn’t trade it for the world! It is a good thing to remember, though!